The Power of "Thank you" and "Sorry"

October 16th 2006  1.37am
How often do we say "Thank you" and "Sorry" in our everyday life to the people that we encounter or deal with on regular basis or even intimately? Are they always sincere? Or is it just something to make someone feel better just to cover your ass and that there was no sincerity behind it?

What's the power of these two words " THANK YOU"?

What's the power of this word "SORRY"?

October 18th 2006  11.03am

Yes, all those three phrases " thank you" , "sorry", "I love you" when said with sincerity are very very powerful that run skin deep. Quite often either people don't say it enough or they feel they are obliged to say so or for some they are afraid to say so especially these 3 words " I love you". The other one from the EGO would be the difficulty in saying " I'm sorry."

Even if we did apologise sincerely to someone, nothing much more can be done to convince once we've really tried our best to get our message across.

A personal experience to share. I've personally dealt with someone in my life in the past who was a verbally abusive person. Initially I used to RE-ACT a lot to his remarks which had just encouraged him to continue doing it. It was just a bitter, agonising and frustrating atmosphere! Then, something came to light from something I was reading at that time  or maybe was a combination - my own experimental technique approach that was inspired from the book, the next time he started verbally abusing me, each remark I responded with the word "Thank you" (nothing more nothing less was said just that 2 magical words).

At first, he was dumbfounded...later the more I did it, he tried harder to make me tick but I held my ground in saying " Thank you" for each remark that comes out of his mouth (was nasty ones) which in turn actually got him even more frustrated but got me feeling more at ease and happier. Through time, his effort in trying to make me tick by verbally abusing me lessened and I think eventually he gave up for the most part although his outbursts did come back periodically. Of course again, it depends on the individual's scenario as to when and how to use this technique. It does work! However, know when to run away from crazy people though before they start getting physical.

On another note, without life's experiences, if I hadn't gone through them;would I be the person you see me today?

I wouldn't be the person I am today! I've learnt from my mistakes (small and huge) and I still do from time to time make mistakes but I try not to beat myself up for them but to learn from them and change myself for the better. Lessons well learnt for me to have a better life. Each time we make a decision at a crossroad, we are led to a different route on course or off course for our life but we would eventually be led back to the right path - one that is TRUE to and for us to walk on.

Make peace, persevere and keep caring, loving and smiling. 
It's OK to cry too when you need to or POUT or shout or even LAUGH OUT LOUD HAHAHAHAHAHAHA! 

It's all a part of the package we call LIFE on EARTH!

Feel the fear and do it anyway but not at the expense of yourself nor someone else!! You can handle it!

 Published on: Oct 18, 2006 @ 11:03