Project: Reality Check

Maintaining a relationship is like being in a big team project. Just like in a big project; to be successful - the following things have to be maintained - making sure everyone recognizes and working towards the same goal being on the same page at all times, periodic reports to check on each member's progress, keeping the harmony within the work environment among team members, brainstorming for ideas or solutions to reach the project's goal and to make the work enjoyable for everyone in spite of the challenges within, solving every curve ball as a team, getting the praise for good work and effort and getting appropriate feedback should something be off track, etc.

To be successful in maintaining a healthy relationship; we have to work as a team. It is not a one man/woman show. In every aspect of the relationship; team spirit has to be present to reach the balance you each want for the relationship. Both have to be clear with their goal/s of their "partnership" and remembering each second what their goals are. Some goals remain for life and others may change through time. The changes have to be made clear to each other whenever it expires. No waiting! It has to be dealt with when it no longer serves its purpose. Making sure both are on the same page is important to maintain the balance.

We are beings that constantly are evolving. Periodic reality checks be it weekly, monthly or yearly - whatever that works for both partners - are crucial in making sure that we are up to date on what works and what don't; what are some challenged areas that need attention or any changes since the last reality check so we each can adjust accordingly to reach the balance needed for the relationship to make each other feel special, appreciated, loved and so forth.  Again making sure each of us are on the same page and getting what we need from our partner and vice versa.

To maintain the harmony in the relationship; communication is at the top of the hierarchy. This is one area where most of us are not paying enough attention to where we are not really "communicating to connect" with each other. We might let things slide, or we ignore the severity of a particular issue when in reality the alarm has been ringing loudly and the list goes on. From that, conflicts arise and the "disconnection" gap broadens. When that gap is not dealt with soon enough and with the right tools to mend it; that gap will just get broader and broader till you fall so deeply to the dungeon of no return.

Are you both committed to the same goals?
What are you doing to stay committed?

Are you working this "project" alone mostly or as a team?
What are you doing to make sure you're both on the same page?

Are you both praising and giving constructive feedback to each other in the manner that connects both of you?
How often do you praise each other?

Are you communicating to CONNECT?
How are you communicating?

Are you building a solid bridge to walk on or are you destroying it?
What are you doing to make sure you always have the solid foundation in your relationship?

 Published on: Jul 2, 2009 @ 23:37